Anal pleasure month
We’ve just entered the month of August… and here is where I would insert an sex pun for y’all.
It’s been 10 years since August was declared as Anal Pleasure month, but if you’re new to this concept, welcome! Anal is for anyone and everyone (for those who consent). It is not a gay man’s sexual act & it certainly shouldn’t be a taboo anymore!
I’ll keep this blog short, with some anal tips & affirmations. Whether you’re an anal newbie or someone who knows their butt hole like the back of their hand!
Go SLOW! Anuses are not like vaginas, in that they don’t create their own natural lubricant, nor are they quite as elastic. So go at your own pace, especially if you’re receiving anal. Start with a finger and work your way up to using toys or other body parts. (This work up could take days or prep, don’t rush into it!
Use lube and lots of it! Silicone lube is great for anal as it is super slippery - BUTT, don’t use silicone lube with silicone toys as the toy will disintegrate.
Use a toy that has a flared base! Your butt will suck it up otherwise and I don’t want you going to A&E.
PLAY! Play before & after, so you feel comfortable, turned on & relaxed. And by play I mean sexual play, massage, kissing, bathing.
Communicate. Have a traffic light system. Green = Go. Amber = Take care. Red - Stop.
STOP if it hurts! Pull out & don’t feed the pain. Listen to your body.
You don’t have to just penetrate. You can also experience rimming, which is oral on the anus.
Anal play should not hurt and if it does, stop, take a breather and check in with yourself. Don’t forget to wear a condom, because STIs can be caught by any sexual act!
If you’re having anal and vaginal penetrative sex, do not double dip! Bacteria from the bum can and will pass to the vagina, so clean up or swap condoms, EVERY TIME!
If you’re worried about mess, talk about it and maybe lay down some towels. Poop is natural and if the sex feels good, then why the hell not! Just remember to clean up before and after so as to stay safer.
PEGGING? Pegging is the name for when a woman uses a strap on to have anal sex with their man partner. The word, for some, is something that will help cis-heterosexual men feel more comfortable with having anal sex, as they do not want to be seen as gay. This in itself is quite homophobic & has caused issues for some. So we say the word with precaution. We do not want to demonise and pathologise queer sex now do we?! As I’ve said before, anyone can have anal sex and this literally does not mean anything! It just means you like to enjoy your body and its pleasure potential.
Remember, you do not have to do anal if you do not want to. It isn’t something that needs to be done, or has to be ticked off the bucket list. Your body, your choice.
I hope you have enjoyed this mini anal blog! Head over to my instagram for more info filled sex ed! @loxleysexology
