qualifications

 

MA in Contemporary Relational Studies (Student, Final Year)

PgDip in Clinical Sexology - Psychosexual & Relationship Therapy

Level 4 Foundation Certificate in Counselling & Psychotherapy

ACET Accredited Sex Educator

Cruse Bereavement Volunteer

Bima holding the camera with two hands, smiling towards it

who am i?

I am a queer, gnc, non binary, passionate, rainbow loving qualified Psychosexual and Relationship therapist; Family therapist; certified Sex Educator and a Masters student in Relationship Studies. My pronouns are they/them. I hold the necessary insurance to practice and follow the ethical guidelines of COSRT. I have had specific training for delivering online & telephone sessions. I take my continuous professional development seriously; I attend seminars and conferences regularly to keep my knowledge and practice updated.

As well as my relevant qualifications, of which I would highly recommend the Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology (CICS) for inspiring sex & relationship therapists, I also have a First Class BA degree in Italian. Whether it with languages or sex & relationships, I know & empathise with the complexity of languages and how difficult it can be to communicate with, understand, and be heard by others, especially when the majority of us were not taught how! Sex is sadly taboo, but I hope that with my sex positivity and my openness to diversity I will create a comfortable environment for you to tell me how you’re feeling and what you’re struggling with.

Neuroscience and how our brains work also fascinate me; it can tell us a lot about why we react and act in certain ways, simply because of our biology and how we are wired. I also love to focus on the raw emotions we have too that go beyond biology. It feels only right to be holistic in the way we analyse ourselves and if we can fully see and understand our whole selves, then we can do a much better job at helping and accepting our whole selves.

I have self diagnosed ADHD and ASD and although I have lived experience of neurodivergence of myself and clients, I am not a neurodivergent specialist. As it is becoming clear, queerness and neurodivergence are sometimes connected. I do work with neurodivergent folk in therapy as I aim to be accessible to all, however, if this were to be the main focus on therapy I would not take you on, as I am mainly psychosexually and relationally trained. The same goes with people with severe depression or anxiety; working with low mental health is something I do daily, but there is a line I do not cross in terms of my trained experience and knowledge. If your mental health is feeling more prevalent than sex or relationships, I may suggest an alternative therapist for you.

Let’s work together!

As well as therapy, I am available to be booked for talks, panels, workshops, collaborations, you name it! All things sex and relationships. Email me to enquire.

Where I’ve been:

MTV’s documentary : Amy Winehouse & Me - speaking with Dionne Bromfield & others about bereavement as a spokesperson for Cruse

My Coral : Talk Dirty To Me - online event with Zoe Kors, talking about sex and intimacy

Hanx & Leith : Let’s Open Up - in person panel talking about Vaginismus with Dr Sarah Welsh, Fran Bushe & Mari Wilson

Podcasts : Cliterally The Best, S3x Theory With Dee, WWR, Culturally Curious, Eyestorm Women’s Voices, Untold Pleasure: Cancer, Sex & Intimacy

my approach.

I work in a Integrative & Humanistic way, which means my approach within sex & relationship therapy is tailored to you. I assess your needs and work in a way that will help you best.

The styles of therapy that I integrate in my work have been learned either in my Diploma, MA or via continuing professional development.

 

Approaches I use:

  • Psychosexual Therapy

  • Gestalt Therapy

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

  • Human Givens Therapy

  • Somatic (no touch)

  • Couples Counselling

  • Mindfulness

  • Transactional Analysis

  • Solutions Focused Therapy

  • Systemic - Family Therapy

  • Rewind Trauma Therapy

  • Safe Space for Trans Folk

  • Safe Space for Sex Workers

  • Kink & fetish Aware

  • Registered Member of COSRT

sex education

Instagram - @loxleysexology

If you follow me or see me on Instagram, you are more than welcome to bring this up in session and how you feel about what information I put out into the world. I am human, I am a sex educator and I am an activist; my queer identity is political, but ultimately I am a therapist and I am always open to learning about your opinions and needs and how we can navigate the therapeutic space together.

Please see below for anatomy drawings i have made

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homologous clitoris & penis

homologous clitoris & penis

anatomy of a vulva

anatomy of a vulva

anatomy of a penis

anatomy of a penis

anatomy of a vagina

anatomy of a vagina